An understated and overly cliched truth that so many of my peers tried to press upon me. Little did they know that you have to learn to love yourself. This year, amongst so much sadness, grief, death and hurt, I learnt that you will never be satisfied with anything until you are satisfied with yourself first. Possibly the most important lesson one has to learn in life, and I learnt it at 19 years old, when I was forced to take a good hard look at myself. I have never been happier in life than I am right now at this very moment, and although I must thank a few close friends, I am proud to say that I, alone, got myself to where I am today.
#2 - Surround yourself with good people.
I have learnt from experience that if you cannot respect the people you are friends with, its only going to hurt and hinder the extent of your friendship. I have lost an absolutely dear friend this year, one who sat next to me everyday at the front of class for three years. One who listened to me cry and whinge, and talk about my dreams. One who I listened to, had funny moments with and miss with every fibre of my being every day. Monica Quyen Nguyen. Knowing her as a person and having her as a friend has made me see that purely good-hearted people truely do exist. Losing her to cancer this year has made me question why I would surround myself with friends that would treat me with “less” respect/kindess/love or whatever label you want to brand it with, than she did. So I spring-cleaned my life so to speak. I have clung to the relationships that I cherish, knowing that those good old friendships you’ve had for many comfortable years are priceless. But making new friends is also exciting and uplifting. Surround yourself with good people, and you’ll feel good about yourself.
#3 - Never loose sight of your dreams
Your dreams, goals, likes and dislikes are all part of the makeup of your personality. My dream was to go to swinburne and pursue my dreams. After sitting in the waiting hall for my interview a kindly boy informed me that they were interviewing sixthousand applicants for the course I wanted, and that only 23 places were available. Terrified, nervous and slightly apprehensive I was then called into my interview. I decided just as I stepped over the threshold between waiting room and interview room, that there were sixthousand people between me and my dream. That if I didn’t impress them, there were plenty of other students wanting to take my place. So I went out on a limb and stepped out of the box which I never do in interviews; usually the epitome of professionalism. A month later I found out I had been chosen, and it proved to me that being confident and giving your dream everything, will get you somewhere.
#4 - Karma is only a bitch, if you are.
An awesome catchphrase, its true and in a way it has slightly become my motto. Be nice to others, treat others as you want to be treated… - All those lessons parents and teachers try to instill into us can all be summed up in my new motto:
Karma is only a bitch, if you are.
So to all those people who complain that karma is out to get them, I have one thing to say to you: What did you do in order to get treated this way? No one is ever completely innocent at anything.
These are the things that I have learnt this year. If they help you or in some way, shape or form relate to you, than I am happy that I could be of help. For 2011, I honestly hope to learn more about myself and the world around me. They do say that one never stops learning. My goal for the new year, completely different-ish from a resolution, is to be nicer to people. Not because I am catty or anything but because I want to feel like I can make someone smile because I have been nice and happy.
Thankyou to the people who have gotten me through this year, you know who you are Jake, Bridget, Josie and Addy. You have all been my best friends and I love you. All.